The story after the storm...

I thought I was going to loose my mind with no power in my house all those days! Yay, I'm back though, like I never left AKAYYY! Anyways, so little Ol' me was on Twitter today and happened to stubble upon some ignorant words some baboo...I mean young man had said about African women and I was actually offended! I NEVER get offended by the sh*t I see on Twitter.... *devilish smirk* Okay, okay, y'all know I always have to out my two cents into certain situations. But anyhow, those words that man was saying about African woman should have been alarming to me, but unfortunately it wasn't. For some reason these African men either living in the U.S or abroad have a sick infatuation with the slander of their own women. This epidemic is so crazy to me because you would think some African men would have the back of their women seeing as Akata (African American) men are always slandering black women. If I'm not mistaken, those same women that are so horrible and deserve nothing but the worse have the same African blood coursing in their veins as their own Mother, sisters, cousins, etc. Can you say those same vulgar words to their faces as well? A couple weeks ago I had posted on my Twitter how I do not want any men from East Africa. My post may have been seen as me generalizing all of the East African men, just as that man had done today with African women. Yes, it may seem hypocritical for me to be arguing with the words this man said, seeing as I did the same thing he did, but I would like to clarify my statement. I may go back and forth with my love/hate for East African men, but in all actuality, I do not slander those men. I may have my dislike for certain qualities that they contain, but how can I truly slander them when the men in my family are those said men as well. Judge me if you want, I'm probably not even going to care, but to each it's own like I always say. Back to the topic at hand. Some woman/women must have hurt that young man for him to be going off like that! I've always said that whatever you post to Twitter is your own opinion and no one else's opinion should matter because in fact it is YOUR Twitter. But for some reason, it has been the new thing to post slander or outlandish words to get attention for more followers or RT count. C'mon with all that man, it's never that serious. To me, Twitter is not real life until you bring real life situations into the mix that deals with my personal life, that is when I go off. Other than that, it's my little leisure time I use when I am bored. My little PSA I would like to address with this post would be the same as any post I create that has to deal with slander. Your opinions will always be null & void if you have ever dealt with the said topic you are slandering. You look stupid and dumb boo boo, and it's not cute. As always, you can take what I say as advice or with a grain of salt, but seriously, this epidemic of hating on your own people has got to end someday! 

Emotions.

Emotions, we all have them whether you are female or a man. Some can openly discuss their feelings, and some cannot. When it comes to a man speaking about his feelings, it is very rare instance. For some reason men feel as if showing their emotions or talking about their feelings shows them as being overly sensitive or weak. Let me just say that is the dumbest sh*t I have ever heard. I can only speak on my behalf, but I believe when you as a man are able to speak about your emotions and the way you feel to the lady you're dealing with, it's a sign of strength. Now I know you're probably like "what the hell is she talmbout"? The reason I say it's a sign of strength is because it takes a real man to be able to speak about his emotions without the feeling of his masculinity being in jeopardy. It shows you are a confident in your being and also trusting in the person you are confiding in. Now they are some females who will walk all over you and your new found "trait". First of all, if a Lady is capable of toying with your emotions, you shouldn't have been dealing with her in the first place. You should do your research into the person you're dealing with before anything ever goes further. Now they are men who are naturally "overly sensitive", I recognize you and acknowledge you. What I want you to know is, no one wants a push over. It's dope to have a man who can be sensitive, but stop allowing the wrong kind of female to walk all over you, it's not a good look. That's how the never ending circle begins.

Now I know this is where all the men will say collectively, "See, females don't want a soft man". Not every female feels the same way as I do! The qualities in a man that I like, someone might find grotesque, to each it's own. But I feel if men could just simply be open to a woman he trusts or dealing with, I believe the never ending circle would start to diminish. But what do I know. #ForeverAlone :)

Slander.

If it's one thing I cannot stand, it is when an ex speaks ill of you once things have gone sour. Oh my goodness, it irks my SOUL!!! Once upon a time, y'all were happy and "perfect" in the relationship. I call it "The Beginning Stage". You know what I mean, the cute text messages, long phone calls, the constant communication, the "butterflies", etc. Now I'm not stating that every relationship necessarily starts like that, but it's pretty damn accurate in my book! Somewhere along the line ish gets real and the once happy couple begin the lack of communication and also the arguing. Some couples can work through it, and some cannot. At this stage, that is when he starts showing his behind and she is constantly on his neck about. The "CIA Agent" trait in a female commences, and the snooping around of the male as well. Fast forward, now the once happy couple are not together anymore and the slandering of that female begins to manifest. I don't know if it's an ego thing in a male, or insecurity, I just know that for some reason it's some how "cool" to slander someone you once loved or was with. So, these are my thoughts on this new "fad". That same female you are talking ill about, is the same female you were whispering sweet nothings to, the same one you were sexing, the same one you promised to never hurt, and finally, the same one you said you loved. Now, this doesn't make any sense to me to be honest. I believe once a man has been all up in your goodies, the slander is null & void! (This is my OWN opinion). Now ladies, you are not off the hook! We are also horrible when it comes to dishing out about the ex. The "Oh that man ain't ish", "He's not even that cute", "His member was small anyways", "He is wack", or "He is broke". LADIES, how can you say all those things and you stuck by that man's side and dealt with it!? Obviously it wasn't that bad! Yes, I am guilty of dishing out slander, I am no angel in any form. But as I get older, and reminisce on the previous relationships I have been in and the word vomit that came out my mouth, I realized that speaking ill about an ex gets you no where and it makes you look ridiculous. Now I hope this post will make you sit back and realize, everyone at one point has been guilty of slandering. 

Changes...

So I haven't been on here in a while. This world wind of a life I live has taken me into different phases. But the past is the past and I am on to bigger and better things. I have recently decided to switch careers. A BIG deal for me. I was in school for Nursing and I just fell out of love with the whole concept of being a nurse; or what I can really say is, I lost passion in the field. Being in an African household, there are certain careers/fields your parents have set for you to choose from, that could be Law, Medicine or Engineering. Growing up my father wanted me to become a Lawyer because of my argumentative nature, but it just never interested me at all. So the next thing would gradually be Nursing because I don't know the first thing about Engineering if it bit me in the butt to be honest. I can say 90% of my family is in the medicine field. In no way am I downplaying the Medicine field, it is a lucrative field to enter and you are almost guaranteed a job once you graduate seeing as people are always going to need healthcare. That is the reason why I decided to enter the field in the first place. But Missy had other dreams and aspirations. (Yes I just used third person!) See my god given skill is Hair and Make-up. Yes I am a girly girl and I love every aspect of the Cosmetology field. So getting back to the topic of this post, I have decided to "postpone" my Nursing education/career to pursue my Cosmetology career full time. Along with my career change, I am contemplating whether or not to start a YouTube vlog dealing with hair, make-up, beauty, fashion, life, etc. There are many vlogs already dealing with those said topics, but I feel I can put a spin and a different take of those topics on my vlog.  I am a YouTube fiend, I could honestly stay on YouTube all day, so that is where I guess you can say I got the idea to start my own vlog. But anyways, I most likely will finish up my schooling for Nursing part time seeing as I have a year left. I like nice things, and my nice things cost a lot, so I will probably need to work as a Nurse or a Medical Assistant (which I am now) to fund my new career and also my "nice things habit". I am super excited and also nervous. This is a big deal and I know now I can be finally happy and get rid of my complacent ways. So look out for my vlog and also look out for me, I might be in a salon styling near you soon!